'When are you going to have another one?'
In fact I have been asked this question since she was just a month old. A month! My stitches on my c-section hadn't even healed and I was sleep deprived, fat and engorged. I couldn't see myself wanting another child in a hurry, however amazing Mads was.
Fast forward a few weeks and it is a totally different story! The summer is coming, Mads is at a brilliant age and I am starting to get more sleep. I have got the hang of this Mummy malarky (sort of) and could totally see myself wanting another baby.
The question is when?
A lot of my friends are saying they want children really close together. I can understand that. Ideally I would like to wait until Mads is a year and then start trying for our second one. However Mr E would like to wait until she is around two before we start again.
I just don't know. What age gap is best? I know I want to enjoy Mads without feeling fat, tired and sick from being pregnant again. However I am also aware that just because it was easy for me to get pregnant the first time, doesn't mean it will happen so easily again.
My mum had no problems conceiving me but then it took her another ten years of actively trying to have my sister. They went for lots of tests and there didn't seem to be any problems- they put it down to 'unexplained infertility.' Eventually my sister was born, and even now because there are almost ten and a half years between us, people always assume she is a step or half sister.
Another thing people always ask is whether we have any sort of bond because there is such a large age gap. They assume that we have nothing in common and that we aren't close.
This is completely wrong. In fact my little sister is one of my best friends. She has my exact same sense of humour, and is a wonderful Auntie to Mads. When I see her we just laugh constantly.
Here we are, then and now!
I happen to think that it is completely your choice and I find it quite frustrating when people constantly ask me when I am going to have my next one. It has been like that throughout mine and Mr E's relationship. When are you going to get engaged? When are you going to get married? When are you going to have a baby? Now when are you going to have another baby? I want to enjoy this one thank you very much!
We will start trying for our second one when we are good and ready, hopefully it won't take ten years, but even if it did, I know that our children will have a close bond because we are a family that are full of love and closeness.
