Should I be made to feel uncomfortable?

There is one thing that I have a real issue with when it comes to taking Mads out and about.


If she cries...


Unfortunately she is a ticking time bomb and can cry at any opportunity.  She generally is a good little girl but like all babies, can occasionally have grumpy days.  (Can't we all!)   


The other day I went out for lunch with my Mum to a nice pub.  I don't get to spend much quality time with her so I was really looking forward to relaxing with a glass of wine and having a chat.  As soon as we walked in I noticed that it was rather busy.  Mads was asleep in her pram and we sat down opposite a large group of about fifteen older ladies.  Straight away I clocked them and mentioned to my mum that I hoped Mads didn't wake up.


We received our main meals and unfortunately Mads did wake up.  However she woke up in a great mood and was smiling and giggling away.  She was due a feed and fortunately I had bought a bottle of expressed milk with me, so as I was having risotto and my Mum was having a salad, she said she would feed her while I finished my lunch.


She wolfed down her bottle and then I think she got some trapped wind.   She started whinging a little, literally just a small amount.  I am perfectly happy to admit when she is being a terror and she can scream the house down when she wants too, but this literally was the tiniest whimper which lasted about three seconds.  I was facing the group of ladies and as soon as she did it I turned my attention to them because I could see them all looking at each other.  I noticed that a couple of them tutted and rolled their eyes.


I felt so uncomfortable and said to my Mum that I would take her outside.  She told me not too, that she was fine and she wasn't making a noise at this point.


I carried on eating my lunch and Mads was as good as gold perching on my Mum's shoulder.  My Mum then went to move her on to the other shoulder and she whimpered again and then stopped.  Again I saw the same couple of ladies in the group look at each other and tut.  One actually whispered 'This is enjoyable over lunch,' it was loud enough for me to hear.


I got up and took Mads while my mum finished her meal and as I stood up I caught one of the ladies eyes.  This actually was one of the nicer ones who had smiled at me when we arrived.  I turned to her and apologised if we were disturbing their lunch.  She smiled and said 'Oh don't worry at all, she is being a very good girl, I haven't heard a peep out of her.'  She then started chatting to Mads and cooing over her.  They then all started asking me about how old she was, what was her name etc.  The two women that had tutted then at least had the decency to look down at their dinner plates.


The whole situation made me feel really uncomfortable and really made me wonder about these ladies.  I am a polite person and would never even dream of saying something to anyone but they made me really cross.  I am sure that they had children or grandchildren themselves and I wonder how they would feel if someone was making their daughter feel uncomfortable.


Doesn't a baby have just as much right to eat her lunch as they do?


I could understand if she was screaming the place down, but she barely made a whimper.  Unfortunately there are always going to be people like this around and I think that we all need to remember that we were all babies once.


Rant over!

Mummy Love- The Gallery

So the title of this weeks 'The Gallery,' is Mother Love.


This is a great subject for me as I am currently in my little bubble of motherly loveliness that comes with having a new baby.  I could literally put hundreds of photos of me and Mad's up, but instead I thought I would put one of myself and my mum up.

This is me with my beautiful Mummy on her wedding day last July.  It was a wonderful day and one that I will remember for a long time.


There is actually two Mum's in the photo because I was 13 weeks pregnant when it was taken.


The day before her wedding had been our first scan and we had seen our little baby for the first time.  My Mum had known from the day we found out but had been sworn to secrecy.  My new stepfather announced the big news in his wedding speech which was a wonderful way for all our family to find out.


The sun was shining, myself and Mr E were thrilled and my Mum had a fabulous time so all in all it was a pretty fantastic day.


My Mum is my role model.  Not necessarily because of what she has done career wise, but for being my Mum.  She is truly a wonderful Mother to myself and my little sister and now she is a wonderful Grandma to Mads too.


I speak to her every day and now live just two minutes down the road from her, after moving around so much when I was in my early twenties because of University and jobs, its nice to now be settled and to be able to pop round for a cup of tea.  She never gets off the phone without saying I love you and she gives the best cuddles!


She has also helped us so much financially after helping us towards a deposit on our house when we were struggling because mortgage's were so hard to apply for.  She has made some huge sacrifices in her life to help us, and I couldn't be more thankful.


Above all though she is my best friend, and I adore spending time with her.  I am so lucky to have her as my Mum and I can only hope that I can be as good a Mummy to my daughter as she has been to me.


Here's to mother love...!